grieving individuals Elizabeth Kubler-Ross developed the Kubler-Ross
model of grief which is described by the five staves of grief.
These stages are:
allowing yourself to see what has actually happened. Still feeling
like that person will walking in that door any moment.
Being angry with the person who is gone or with the person who was
responsible for this loss or being angry with your faith, etc.
This could be mentally or spiritually, but basically trying to
figure out a way to undo what has been done.
Realizing what has happened and feeling all the pain that comes
along with it.
Finally accepting that this person will not be returning and
starting to learn how to cope with these feelings.
This of course is
not how all grieving individuals will experience all stages or if
they experience them in the same way or order. The Kubler-Ross
model is here to hopefully help those who need it make sense of
their grief and how they are feeling and coping.
When you or someone
you know is grieving and is in need of help, bereavement counselling
is definately something that should be looked into. There are
different ways of getting this help. It could be one on one with a
private therapist or in a group setting. However you find help,
use this time to explore your emotions. You will most likely be
asked to discuss your loss and your relationship with this person.
It is not going to
be easy but hopefully it will be a time for you to really reflect
how you are feeling. Talking about this person may open you up to a
hole bunch of emotional feelings. There may even be outbursts of
crying or yelling. Keep in mind that your counsellor or those in
your group understand and will not be offended. Be as open as you
can. And donít feel embarrassed.